RISHAV
I have severe
travel anxiety. I absolutely hate flights. I am someone who hates the journey
in an elevator from the ground floor to the first floor, a flight journey was
so much more than what I could endure. Imagine being shut in an aluminum tin
for 26 long hours; the noise, the turbulence, the bad food, lack of sleep- all deterrents. Not
to mention my hatred of airports; loud noisy places, too crowded for my taste.
I couldn’t wait for this arduous journey to come to an end. A small voice in my
head kept asking me if all this was worth it.
“She is perfect Rishav. I can’t see one thing in her
that should make you think twice. You’re the one who told us that she’s one of
the few people who gets you. Trust me on this. She’s the One.”
This argument,
accompanied by an anxious stare from my mother, made me plan the trip to go
meet her and take a decision once and for all. There could be no more
dilly-dallying. I had been speaking to her almost every day for the last 2
months.
Talking to her
was immensely difficult, and exceedingly easy . I
constantly felt like there
was an impregnable wall around her, as if I was not getting through to what she
really was. Every conversation with her was the same. It wasn’t that she wasn’t
intelligent, interesting or articulate. She got me like no one else had in the
past. She had a great sense of humor, and the ability to turn even the most
boring conversations into fun. However, the wall around her
bothered me. She seemed too cautious, why? I had no clue. I felt connected
nevertheless. There was just something about her. The mystery was too alluring
to pass up.
As much as I
hoped, against hope that this was it; this was the girl I was going to marry,
my past kept holding me back. The pain was too much to bear. The pain of
expecting and then being let down. The pain of loving with all your heart, only
for It to be torn to shreds. The pain of giving everything you had and more,
only to receive nothing in return. The pain of watching the one you would die
for, not even flinch as you bled out. This was what I had been through. It had
been a rough couple of years for me. I had been
beaten, bruised and battered, so much that I felt mostly empty. A shadow of the
person I used to be. This was a time when I was beginning to worry if love and
companionship were for me. A commitment such as marriage seemed almost alien.
“Rishav, The
past should stay where it belongs. Don’t let it ruin whatever life has in store
for you. It has been three long years
since then. It is time to move on. We fall in love many many times in life.
Some of which is workable, sometimes not. When we do, and the other person also
does, and when it is workable, that is a long term association. That is called
marriage. You need to give yourself and life a chance.”
“I am aware.”
“Your actions
however, don’t suggest so. You have turned down every proposal in the past one
year, without even bothering to speak to any of the girls properly. This cannot
go on forever. Life is about trying and failing, and then trying again till you
succeed. What are you punishing yourself for? Everything that happens to you is
not always in your control. You need to let life take you places at times.”
“I cannot be
like a dead fish in a stream, Dad. You know that.”
“I am not asking
you to be a dead fish in a stream. I am just asking you to swim with the
current at the moment, instead of trying so hard to swim against it. We want
you to be happy Rishav, and this is clearly not making any of us happy, and we
know it. Let us not kid ourselves. You are miserable, and seeing you like this
makes us miserable. Just sitting here and mourning the loss of something long
gone, is not going to help you. You need to pick yourself up and do something
about it. Things don’t mend themselves, you need to put in the effort to make
it happen too.”
“I know. But, I
am not afraid to make things work. Perhaps, I am tired of trying; of staying
strong.”
I got jolted
back to the now, as the flight thudded onto the runway. I gathered my thoughts
and grabbed my bag. The D-day was here. I would know for sure by the end of
today.