The half-full way.

I really wonder why.

Why is it that as we keep ascending in a relationship, i'm not just talking about a romantic one, but also about frienship, the expectations are also on the rise ? Is it because we now begin to believe that the so and so person is now close enough for us to behave as we like with them ? Or is it because we now have complete confidence that no matter how rudely or badly you behave they will always 'understand' and just let it be ? Is it because we feel that now that we have gained the person's trust he/she will never desert us ? Are all these feelings just proving the age old saying that 'familiarity or proximity breeds contempt' ?

So, by these experiences, should we quit moving closer to anybody? Should we remain within the walls of our mind ? Shall we put an end to sharing emotions or experiences ? Should we inhibit ourselves from feeling that 'yaar, yeh toh apna hi hai' ?

I say NO.I would say that this is nothing but the manifestation of a bored mind. It might be true that 'proximity breeds contempt' but experience even says that 'proximity is the true predictor of love'. Lets just run this whole thing over again. The feelings that arise in our minds are necessarily the feelings that we want to feel. 'It is all in the perspective'.

If you want to think that the other person is trying to neglect you or purposely trying to be rude with you or avoid you, I beg you to think again. This person in question is the one with whom we have become close. Assumed that he's our own person. A person with whom we can share a bit of our lives. Instead of thinking that the person is willfully not agreeing to spend time with us, lets just think that may be the circumstances are not in favor of us being together or to even maintain contact. This way, we do ourselves and the other person a big favor. We prevent ourselves from brooding and sulking over a non-existent problem. We avoid unnecessary blame games. We also save a hell a lot of energy.This also prevents an otherwise imminent fight.

Its very simple. Look at things the 'half-full' way. Thats the easiest way to happiness. Both yours and your relationship's !